A Sexy Bedroom Sets The Right Mood!
With all the stress, anxiety, and overwhelming mess life throws at us, it can be hard to get your fill of intimacy before your head hits the pillow. And, it seems that too often our bedrooms become more of a storage area than the sanctuary they should be. So, I wanted to take a minute and make today’s post about what you can do to make your bedroom the tranquil, sexy, and romantic retreat it should be. After all, it’s kind of hard to get into the mood when you have a pile of clothes you have to move off your bed, and you have your kid’s Tickle-Me-Elmo staring at your face, left laying on the floor from when they followed you in there earlier. Here are some tips to set the mood with a sexy bedroom!
This means that your bedroom should express YOU and have in and around it furniture, artwork, clothes and items that are deeply personal. An attractive bedroom with all new furniture and no real character is not sexy. Women are sexier than girls, so let go of the Victoria’s Secret PINK decor, or “my bedroom is just my crashpad” and kick it up a notch.
Lose Computers, Wires and Officey Stuff
With all due respect to those who work from home and are short on space, please do all you can to keep all non-bedroom activities OUT of the bedroom. It just kills the space. Make sure your bedroom is a retreat from all the other stuff you do in your life. Make it your inner sanctum.
Rock a Good Bed
This doesn’t mean that you need to spend a lot of money, but taking care of this purchase, spending what you can, and really falling in love with your bed is a great start for falling in love IN bed. Also try not to store anything under your bed if you can. It’s bad ju-ju.
Lighting is KEY
Your bedroom should be lit for you and for your easy use. This means at least three points of light, which is typically two reading lamps and one opposite. Like any good hotel setup, you want to be able to have a nice light in bed before you go to sleep and you want the rest of the room to be softly illuminated with low, indirect light and NOT a fixture on your ceiling. Easy to reach soft, low light is sexy.
Have Candles at the Ready
Candles always carry a romantic connotation and for good reason. The light they cast is the softest, warmest, and sexiest around. EVERYONE looks good in candlelight. For an even bigger effect, place you candles inside a lantern that will cast great shadows and light on your walls.
Warm Colors, But Not Too Warm!
While cool colors are actually better for supporting a good night’s sleep, they are are not hot, stimulating colors, which might be more useful right now. My recommendation is to aim somewhere in the middle. Go for warm greys, lavender, warm greens, browns, tans, and reds (All rooms need at least something red in them). Neutral colors rock. Think “spa chic” and raw linen, which is so popular right now. China White is a lovely not too warm white, which goes really well with little warm pops of color in bedding, pillows, rugs, curtains or lampshades.
Keep it Quiet
Peace and quiet is of signal importance in the bedroom, but particularly in the sexy bedroom. It’s communicates privacy, intimacy and coziness. To quiet down even the noisiest bedroom you simply need to add a lot of fabric to dampen the sound. Heavy, tall curtains and a good rug or wall to wall carpet will do most of the heavy lifting here. Headboards are excellent for absorbing sound while you’re in bed. Armchairs add a luxurious touch to the bedroom – can you say Boudoir? – and also will eat up unwanted noise.
Keep it Soft to The Touch
You want to consider all the senses when in the bedroom and softness of touch is a big one. Lovely, high quality bedding under your body (If you are going to splurge anywhere in your bedroom, do it on the sheets), a warm rug under your feet and a crisp, dry over-sized towel to wrap him or her up in will take you really far.
Mirrors Are Great For Sex
While some may feel mirrors make them too self-conscious, it’s worth the risk. While not good for a sleepy, slumbering bedroom, an attractive, large standing mirror or wall mirror that allows you to watch yourselves (when you’re ready to) is super stimulating and can take you to new heights. If it’s a large standing mirror, you can easily move it if you want to as well.
Sexytime Loves a Little Music
Every bedroom deserves a good soundtrack and you don’t want to go fishing around in your iTunes, Spotify or Pandora at the last minute. Know what you love and what is also generally accessible to your potential mate, so look for music that is about love and union and not necessarily about independence and breaking free. Groovy stuff, a little older stuff, slow with a deep beat and your golden. You can take a look at our 5 Song You Have To Make Love To if you are looking for a place to start.
Keep Toys & Helpers Discreet But Close
Not much to say here, but when the time comes you don’t want to go far in the dark to find what you need. In the nightstand is always a good spot.
Clean Is Sexy. Don’t Forget It
I left this one for last because it’s a buzz kill, but it can’t be said enough that if you do NOTHING else, make sure your room is really, really clean. It’s actually the first thing a person senses (consciously or unconsciously) when they walk into the bedroom and is the biggest turn off, even when everything else is okay. Keep clothes folded and away, the floor vacuumed (under the bed too) and all your surfaces neat and clean. Order and cleanliness in the bedroom are the best backdrop for letting go and getting wild and dirty, and you don’t want to blow it.