How do I get him to notice me?
So, you have this guy you want to fall for you, or maybe you are just wanting to make your current partner fall for you all over again. Some people are just gifted when it comes to attracting the attention of another, but some of us need a little help. If you are just unsure about how to get his head over his heels for you, then try these tips!
1. Find your happiness!
People who know who they are individually will always do the best in attracting the other sex. Get out there and find what it is you like doing. It is very attractive when you see someone doing something they are passionate about. It’s almost contagious because you can feel that person’s passion for it. I know we have always heard “you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else”. I partially believe this. I say “partially” because I believe we are all works in progress and always will be. Show me a person who is truly happy with everything in their life, and I will show you a liar. There’s nothing wrong with being unhappy with things in our lives. That’s what makes us desire change and drives us to improve ourselves and our situations. So, I just challenge you to find a few things you are passionate about. This will impact every area of your life, including dating. It will get you started on your never ending journey to happiness. This is the most important information in this post. Now on to the lighter stuff!
2. Use your body.
It should go without saying that you should try to “dress for success” so to speak. I mean make sure you look attractive. By no means should you overdo it, but you should make sure you are wearing nice clothes, have your make-up on if you use it, be clean and smell good, etc. But, this part is more about your body language. When you are chatting with this guy, try batting those pretty eyes of yours. It is scientifically proven that we blink faster when we are emotionally excited, so put it to use and show him you’re attracted without saying a word. Make sure you lean in towards him a bit while he’s talking; this will let him know that you are truly interested in what he’s saying. Find a reason to reach out and grab his arm lightly during conversation. Oh, he will definitely notice.
3. Use the “Mirror Effect”.
Try mimicking what he does, but don’t be too obvious. For example, try taking a sip of your drink when he does, or try using similar hand gestures during conversation, try sitting in a similar way to him, etc. The point of this is to make him feel in sync with you. He will unconsciously feel a similarity with you. This seriously works!
4. Keep him close.
Does he have a few favorite spots he likes to hang out or frequent? Make sure you happen to see him there occasionally. By no means should you stalk him, but if you happen to be getting coffee at the same place he gets his, or go to the same gym he goes to, then it will build on the sense of similarity between the two of you, plus it obviously gives you more opportunity to chat him up.
5. Let him in.
Tell him some personal things about yourself, though do it in moderation. Maybe mention where you grew up, how many siblings you have, your favorite band, etc. By doing this, you are giving him some insight to who you are, which will help develop a feeling of intimacy. This will help to get the ball rolling, and it will make him feel more comfortable sharing some of the more intimate details about himself with you. The more you talk,the deeper you can get with the details.
6. Umm…Maybe just tell him?
Yep, this is probably the easiest way of all. If you are the kind of girl who has the nerve to just be straightforward, then use it to your advantage! Believe it or not, most guys find girls who are assertive extremely attractive. Hey, it’s the 21st century; there’s nothing wrong with you making the first move. You saw him, you like him, you want him, so go get him!
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Dr. Joe Fanelli, Love, Lust, and Relationships professor, Syracuse University
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Personalistic Self-Disclosure and Attraction: Basis for Relationship or Scare Resource