What are the reasons you’re still single?
It seems everyone around you has found theirs, but you’re still searching for yours. Everywhere you turn there’s a couples holding hands, making out, saying cute little shit to each other! Part of you is like “smh, who needs it”, but another part is like “f*ck, why can’t I get that”. Finding someone you actually want to spend time with and who “gets” you can seem beyond impossible, but are you making it harder on yourself? Here’s 7 reasons you’re still single AF.
You’re playing hard to get?
Do you act uninterested when you really are? This behavior is common, and it’s a natural defense mechanism. When you don’t truly put yourself out there, then it’s hard for someone to hurt you. The main problem is that it attracts the wrong kind of person. When you act this way, you may very well end up with someone who is fine with not being close in a relationship (I promise you don’t want that!).
You’re not over your ex.
Whether consciously or not, you are still holding on to something that’s not coming back and probably was never good for you anyway. There was a reason that the two of you ended, and whether it was their fault or yours, it really doesn’t matter. If it was your fault, you weren’t getting what you needed from the relationship or it wasn’t the right time in your life. If it was theirs, screw’em for doing that to you. Either way, YOU HAVE TO LET GO. Allow yourself to move past it, and open yourself up to new opportunities.
You’ve lost your confidence.
You have gotten to a point where you just can’t figure out what it is you have to offer or why anyone would want to be with you. STOP THAT SELF LOATHING BULLSHIT RIGHT NOW! You are a wonderful person, and there truly is someone out there for everybody. You are someone’s ideal of the perfect companion…true story.
You fear dependence.
Some people will protect their independence at all costs, and often that includes being in a relationship. It’s hard to let go of any type of control in your life, but it’s okay to be a little dependent now and then, the trick is to find the right person to depend on.
You think it’s just not time.
Too often people hold out on looking for a partner because they think they need to achieve certain goals or criteria firs, like losing weight, making a certain amount of money, etc. But the truth is, the right person for you will not give a damn about any of that stuff.
You don’t think “the one” exists for you.
If you date infrequently, you’re bound to invest a bunch of emotional energy in each prospect, which makes it harder when it doesn’t work out. But if you date more regularly, you’ll become desensitized to those inevitable dating setbacks. So, just get out there and date!
You’re too damn picky.
You have to stop making a never ending list of qualities you’re looking for in a guy, and start focusing on qualities you want in a relationship. Often, the qualities you are looking for in a guy will not translate into what would be good in a relationship. So, the next time you meet someone with potential, instead of making sure they check off enough boxes on your list, ask yourself do they have the qualities you’re looking for in a relationship.